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Anyway, coming from a time of vulnerability and sleepless nights, I can somewhat relate to this movie. It gave me lots of things to think about which are mostly good realizations about love and relationships. Here are my realizations: (PS: DO NOT READ IF YOU HAVEN'T WATCHED THE MOVIE!)
1. Sometimes people break up in terrible ways but for the right reasons
Like in Piolo and Toni's case, the breakup was terrible. Toni left Piolo crying in the rain without even opening the taxi cab. There was no closure, and Toni wasn't able to explain herself clearly to Piolo, but their breakup seemed a long time coming. They were not growing as a couple, Toni had many doubts and insecurities and Piolo seemed to have been complacent with her needs. The breakup caused them to grow both as individuals and helped them discover who they really were.
2. In love, there should be acceptance, and no fear
I liked what Iza Calzado (Patty) said about love. She said that there is no fear in love. This reminded me of a Bible verse 1 John 4:18 which says that "Perfect love drives out fear". It encompasses the beloved person's whole being. This means accepting the person's past, sticking out with him/her in the present and building your world with his/her future. This drives out the fears which is comprised of our doubts and insecurities. However, for me, this doesn't mean you should settle. It's either you have to be with someone you can accept, or you accept the one you choose to have.
3. You can never unlove a person, you only love him/her in a different way
Piolo said something like this when he was talking to Toni in the end. Loving doesn't just mean being with the person and having a relationship with them, it also means being kind enough to let them go. Loving means wanting the best for him or her. This mindset erases our bitterness because it helps us think that we let them go because we don't love them anymore, but because we love them enough to want the best for them.
4. A love built on friendship is the best kind of love
If you're seeking a romantic partner, it is better to have a relationship that is deeply rooted in a steady friendship. If you're just into physical and emotional chemistry and all the sparks and sprinkles, you're just bound for disappointment. He must know you. You must know her. You must share the common goals, beliefs and ideals. Your interests may be different but you complement each other thus this makes you grow. Your beloved should be your person, your confidante, your best friend. You should be able to tell them everything without fear and rejection. This is the best kind of love because when all the sparks are gone, friendship is what keeps you together. This is what mirrors Iza and Piolo's relationship in the movie because even if their love is steady and may seem "boring", their friendship is what kept them together.
Did you like "Starting Over Again?" What are your thoughts on this movie?
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ReplyDelete3. You can never unloved a person, you only love him/her in a different way
ReplyDeletePiolo said something like this when he was talking to Toni in the end. Loving doesn't just mean being with the person and having a relationship with them, it also means being kind enough to let them go. Loving means wanting the best for him or her. This mindset erases our bitterness because it helps us think that we let them go because we don't love them anymore, but because we love them enough to want the best for them.
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So if the person loves you and you only want is the best for him/her then you should let them go? How about if i said the best for me is YOU. Do you still continue of letting me go?